I have been married for 7 years and together for 9 but my wife has never had my back with her mom until I decided go move out and I would have to have her back
My mother in law told me to get off my butt and help out while my wife and I were mid discussion about how to divide and conquer at a family gathering. I asked my wife afterwards, alone, if she felt that I wasn't being helpful and she said no. I hate that my wife didn't stand up for me but if I say anything to them my wife treats me like I'm the bad guy and asks why I hate them.
when my wife started dealing with anxiety and depression I didn't quite know how to help her out so to her it often came across like I wasn't on her side to defend her with what was going on. Was tough at first but now I've learned how to properly help out
I had an ex girlfriend that I was with for almost 5 years and no matter what her parents/sisters would say about me, good or bad, true or not true, she never would defend me. And if I ever said anything to just slightly defend myself, she would lash out and blame me for what they were saying. I didn't mind her parents but could NOT STAND HER OLDER SISTER JACKIE!. It drove me insane! So glad I'm out of that relationship!
my ex-husband and I were having marital problems. He opened his mouth and told everyone in Sanpete. They sided with him and would harass me. I would stick up for myself and he was too embarrassed to put his friends in their place and would get mad at me for "causing" problems. They don't know that he wants to get back together now. No thanks, loser.